The spirit animal of the terrible band that’s constantly practicing across the courtyard from me and never getting any better. If you haven’t heard them butcher “Where Is My Mind?” or “Under the Bridge,” you haven’t lived
"People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. “Oh, women do that” and “Oh, men do that” and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are."
Laverne Cox (via lucrezialoveshercesare)
First, sex positivity is not for you or men like you. Sex positivity is for marginalised groups to reclaim their sexuality. We live in a society that caters to your desires, and creates crushing stereotypes for everyone else that gets us violently sexually assaulted and killed. I first have to make it clear the critique to be made of porn is solely political, not moral grounds. Sex is not wrong, or nasty, or shameful, or dirty. Sexual desires are not immoral. The eroticisation (as found in sexual cultures such as BDSM) of systems of domination and submission is not morally wrong. Telling sex workers they are “morally wrong” or “dirty” is sexist as fuck. What I’m saying is that you cannot ignore the abuse of women within the sex industry.
That is what is happening under the umbrella of sex positivity. An individual’s ‘agency’ trumps social factors/impacts. This immediately frames the debate in individual terms, isolated from any greater ideology or impact. But in terms of your individual, private, sex life, is it really fair to say that, for example, pornography is something that is individual and private? Or would it be fair to say that pornography is a cultural, social phenomenon that exists as it does today within a particular framework of domination, subordination, sexism, and violence? I think we could all agree that pornography has influenced our perceptions of women and of men, of femininity and masculinity and, of course, of sex and sexuality, as a society, as well as individuals. Turning this into a conversation about individual likes and dislikes completely misses the point."
Aamna, addressing a man on the porn industry and sex positivity (via maarnayeri)
YES thank you thank you thank you
Huh. This is pretty much spot on.
I’ve never been a vinyl guy. A friend bought me a turntable for my birthday in February and I thought that was particularly thoughtful ‘cos I know how much he digs vinyl records and it felt like he was connecting by sharing something integral about his personality with me, so that inspired me to buy a few classics I could find for $5. But for a long time I was content to listen to mp3s, rationale being that for a $20 vinyl record I could cop 4 or 5 EPs I liked just as much off Bandcamp. Then at Chapterfest, I bought these records from Standish/Carlyon, Geoffrey O’Connor, Primitive Calculators, The Ancients, and Dick Diver, and I’ve been having a lot of fun playing them over the past couple days. It’s given me some insight into how different one’s reaction to music can be depending on the format. Not necessarily ‘cos of all that “It just sounds warmer!” shit but, like, for example I’ve never rated Dick Diver all that highly (Lower Plenty is my favourite Al Montfort band, Boomgates are my favourite Steph Hughes band); whenever I’d put their album on through iTunes I found myself wanting to switch away to something else after a couple of songs. But listening to Calendar Days on the stereo, having it playing in the background from the other side of the room, has given me a whole new appreciation for them. I think it might be that it creates a good ambience, while when I’m listening to something on my laptop with headphones it’s more insular and focused, but just letting it play through sort of, I dunno, opens it up, I guess. The other thing is that ‘cos the experience of playing this stuff on a turntable has been so pleasurable, I’ve just been cycling through these five records for the past couple days, so I’m probably giving them more time (and therefore hearing things in them I otherwise wouldn’t) than if I’d played them through on my computer.
This is probably super obvious stuff to a lot of you, but it’s given me another bit of perspective on how two people can hear and react to the same record in two completely different ways.
Weird actual example of how format can make a genuine difference to the listening experience, beyond yr normal audiophile stuff and/or the simple act of having to flip the disc etc - in my teens, I discovered Lou Reed’s “Transformer” in my parents’ record collection and played it on vinyl for ages before i finally got it on CD. And when I listened to the CD it was like, wait, what? There’s BASS? And no weird scratching sound? Turns out the vinyl copy I’d been listening to was pretty much completely fucked - but I kinda liked it better that way
|Jacob Caactus:||it was all a dream i used to read jandek magazine|
|Me:||i think about crime when i’m in a jandek state of mind|
|Jacob Caactus:||jandek on the beat ho|
|Me:||Next stop is the Jandek Moteeeeeeeeeel|
|Jacob Caactus:||AND AFTER THE SHOW IT'S THE JANDEK PARPY|
|Me:||Jandek got his cup, but he ain’t chipped in|
|Jacob Caactus:||let's have a toast for the jandek|
|Me:||Jandek was a hero to most, but he never meant shit to me|
|Jacob Caactus:||gucci gucci louis louis fendi fendi jandek|
|Me:||I was like, good gracious Jandek bodacious|
|Me:||hahaha sigh I better make dinner or I will be doing this all night|
It is Friday, y’all!
JOKES! It’s not Friday…we’re literally just delirious. Take 2 will be tomorrow.
so right now I’m into the idea that, if cultural products that have issues are being inevitably dragged into the agora for discussion, making an effort to engage with the muddled-if-salient points within while simultaneously deriding the things that are lousy about them is the way to go? not to make the art look better, and DEFINITELY not to excuse the artist, but to make the discourse less… monolithic? despair-inducing? hmm, neither of those is the exact term, but i do think that the rapidfire nature of internet discussion and the way in which outraged! opinions! attract attention is not really helping the state of the world at this point in time.
AMEN. The internet’s outrage machine is infinitely tiresome